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Do You Think Shyness is Weakness?

Shyness

Many people are shy. However, there are degrees of shyness. Depending on how shy some people are, should that be considered a weakness? If it comes between you and getting what you want, then it should be considered a weakness.

Shyness is a choice. Sometimes, it can be the result of negative experiences. People develop barriers when this happens. If they don’t do anything to correct this condition, it often gets worse. Eventually, this can lead to total withdrawal from any interaction with others.

We Need Others

We need people to survive. While they can get by on their own, people tend to excel when they get others involved. This is because you can’t be good at everything. When you have certain weaknesses, you need to rely on others to compensate for them. Withdrawing away from people keeps you from effectively using others’ strengths. Your weaknesses prevail when this occurs.

While you can work on your weaknesses to make them stronger, you won’t be able to deal with every one of them. It’s much like the jack-of-all-trades. This person is not good at anything but can handle being okay at many. This is not the essence of strength.

Break the Shell

It can take a leap of faith to break out of your shell. It’s easier to revert to shyness. Sometimes, you just need to take that leap. To help, know that you will benefit when you do it. You will have the strengths of others at your disposal.

People who are not shy know what they want. They also know they need others to thrive. They give back via their own strengths. There will be some who take advantage and take more than they give. But, that usually backfires on them over the long run. When you give more than you take, people are willing to give to you at the time of your need.

Take What is Yours

Don’t be afraid to take when the time is right. You won’t be able to do this if you are shy. Ask yourself what benefit will you receive by remaining shy? If the answer is none, then you need to take steps to break through that shyness.

Exposure to others will help you. Even if you are not giving or taking, just being with others will give you the practice you need to start getting over your shyness. Volunteering is another great way to put yourself out there. It forces you to interact with people and it helps others at the same time.

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Stephen Meadows
Stephen Meadows has been in the real estate industry since 2001 and loves nothing more than to help agents and brokerages succeed. He is the author of 5 books and has published 5 additional projects for other talented people. Stephen is a certified life coach and passionate educator. Be sure to check out his books at www.MeadowsBooks.com.
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